The other day, someone in my extended network posted something about how Toronto just isn’t safe for their kids. This has got me thinking about safety and responsibility. I thought about how when I was a kid, I was instructed on how to behave in public spaces. “Look wrong way, right way, then wrong way before crossing the street, because if someone’s driving on the wrong side of the road they’re going extra fast.” “Sure, go play outside, but stay out of the road.” “When you ride your bike, keep as far over as you can; the cars can’t see you.” My safety and security was definitely something I was supposed to be actively engaged in, and if I got hurt, it was probably in no small part down to my own decision making.
This gets me thinking about those “Baby on Board” stickers you see in so many car windows. Like, who needs to see that? Emergency responders are trained to look for a car seat. Believe it, if there’s a baby in the wrecked car that they’re opening with the Jaws of Life, they’re gonna notice it. That sticker isn’t for them, it’s for the rest of us. It’s saying, “The safety of the occupants of this vehicle is the responsibility of everyone around the vehicle.” Implicit, there, is the idea that the person with the most direct control over the safety of the vehicle’s occupants — the driver — is less responsible.
I had some kind of point in mind the I started writing this, but honestly, I let time pass and I’ve edited out a lot of the snark and digressions, and it’s really just come down to the simple observation that I stated in the post’s title. Your safety is your own responsibility, first and foremost. Other people may be able to act in ways that affect your safety independent of your own decisions and actions, but you are always the person in most immediate control of your security. Act like it.